Knowing the signs of a mental health condition are critical, perhaps equally important is knowing what to do if someone tells you they are having thoughts of suicide. In this blog post, we will discuss what to do if a loved one reveals to you that they are having suicidal thoughts.
First, know that it is a positive thing that someone is willing to open up to you and share that they have been struggling. This gives you a chance to help. Read on to learn how you can support someone who is experiencing suicidal ideation.
- Listen. Be sure that your friend or family member knows that you are listening to them, taking them seriously, and reassure them that you are eager to listen. Show your support by expressing your care for them.
- Encourage them to continue sharing. Let them know you would like to hear more about what they are going through. Listen actively, ask questions, and express interest in hearing details.
- Ask them about how they are dealing with changes in their life. Try to find out how long they have felt this way, and whether these feelings are impacting their life significantly. For example, ask them if they have been getting out as often, or if they have experienced any impact on their sleep or keeping up with work.
- Stay Calm. Even if someone has told you they are having suicidal thoughts, that does not mean they are in immediate danger. Reassure your friend or family member that help is available, and continue to ask further questions about their experience such as how often they are having these thoughts, or what you can do to help them feel safe.
- Know when to take a break from the conversation. Talking about suicide and suicidal ideation is a tough discussion to have. Follow the lead of your loved one, and know when to stop the conversation if it seems like things are getting too difficult for them to discuss.
Connecting a Friend or Family Member with Professional Help
While these conversations can be hard, it is a great opportunity to help someone connect with a licensed professional to get the support they need. Sometimes just making that first contact with a therapist is the hardest part– offer to help your friend by looking into local providers or even driving them to their first appointment. If someone is concerned about others finding out they are getting help, reassure them that you will be as discreet as possible– and that there is nothing to be ashamed of. Sometimes, circumstances may require that you enlist the help of others. In that case, encourage them to be part of the conversation.
Unfortunately, in some circumstances, one may not want help. In the event that the individual is not in immediate danger and/or is not already self-harming, do not push too hard. Be sure that your friend knows that you are there if they want to talk. You can also refer them to a suicide and crisis lifeline, which could help them understand what it might look like to work with a doctor or therapist.
As the conversation winds down, remind your friend that you will continue to be there for them if they need to talk. If they are in immediate danger, stay with them, encourage them to call their doctor or therapist, or call the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.
How New Perspective Counseling Can Help
At New Perspective Counseling, we are committed to providing caring, professional and effective services to promote your mental wellness. If you are experiencing difficulties related to your mental well-being, we encourage you to contact us today. Left untreated, problems do not go away, but can grow and lead to more distress. Our staff will guide you in finding relief from anxiety, stress and depression, and help you experience enjoyment in your relationships and a sense of purpose in your life. You will gain insight into your struggles and find positive solutions to your problems. Request an appointment with one of our counselors today.